And the Chaos within me found balance

"She builds others up because she knows what it's like to be torn down."

How many times a day do we use the words I, fair, mine, right, etc.? How many times a day are we annoyed, offended, irritated? And how much energy do we waste on those feelings every day, or yet, how much of that negative energy to we transfer to those we come in contact with? Think about it, it takes just a second from your mood to go from happy to irritated, annoyed, angry. Just a second, something as simple as a dirty look, getting cut off in traffic, having your mail shoved into your mailbox, etc. Now granted, we're all human and it's normal to get bugged. The problem with that, is how long we hold onto those feelings and how many people we transfer them to. 
"Be the type of person that makes everyone you come across feel perfectly okay with being exactly who they are."

I live in a place that is known to be fairly "sheltered". I didn't grow up here, in fact I have lived all over the world. But I keep gravitating back for some reason. I know it's sheltered, that's a huge part of the attraction. What I didn't realize was how quickly I was adapting my views and ideas of the "norm" to those of the majority population of where I lived. 

"Things are as they are, we suffer because we imagined different."

Recently I took a vacation to Vegas. Just a weekend getaway to clear my head and un-wind. I was so entertained by everyone walking around. Each person with their own unique style, personality, flare for life. No one looking for anyone else's approval, or seeming insecure about their looks or style. And everyone so happy and confident....except of course for the ones camped out at the slot machines who had probably been there for days on end. My point though, is I was excited to see so much diversity. Not just in cultures but in individuality. I absolutely loved seeing so many people expressing themselves proudly and being completely content with being nothing but themselves. Ok...I get that I probably sound like I live in Amish country and I'm seeing the outside world for the first time. But it was more than that, it was how free life felt, like there were no judgments, no bad stares, no critcism....everyone just seemed free to simply be. And isn't that we all want? To live our lives according to our own rules, to do what makes us happy, and not feel inhibited?
"Be an encourager, the world has plenty of critics already"

I assume at this point you either think I'm crazy, grew up in a bubble, or am simply just rambling. And maybe to an extent I am. I guess the point I'm trying to get at is this. We all go through trials, some worse than others, and we all handle life differently. I guess the point I have been trying to make is that we spend far too much time worrying about, criticizing, or taking offense to everyone and everything around us. It's like people wake up instantly offended by something. How much energy is wasted living our lives like that? Now imagine taking all of that energy and flipping it around, instead of mocking the overweight person, or taking offense to someones t-shirt slogan, why not simply enjoy and embrace each persons freedom to be who they are. Why not spend less time focusing on everything else and more on actually living and enjoying each moment of your own life. All we have for certain is each current moment of our lives, right now. So enjoy it, put a damn smile on your face, pull your panties out of a twist, laugh instead of getting mad. The time goes by far faster than it should, so stop wasting it.  


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